Tips On Looking For ‘The One’

As you might imagine, questions about “The 1” are some of the most frequently asked by my clients:

• Will I ever meet the 1?
• Is there a 1 out there for me?
• Is he/she the 1?
• If she/he isn’t the 1, why are we together?
• What was the purpose if he/she wasn’t the 1?
• What can I do to find the 1?
• Have I missed the 1?
• What if I never find the 1?

Everyone says these with a bit of tongue in cheek at this point because so many people are yodeling about there not being a “1” and we need to be less Disney princess and more realistic about relationships and our lives. So we affect to be realistic and even a bit sarcastic and jaded. Yet underneath this bit of realism and jadedness is the yearning. I tune into the yearning first because it’s going to tell me volumes about the situation before I ever open the client’s soul book.

So let’s get this part out of the way first. Is there a 1? For most people, no. And Hallelujah! Having a 1 out there, or having a soul mate as this type of relationship is more commonly known, is one of the most miserable lifetimes to try to survive. Imagine throwing two darts at each other from 1000 miles apart and hoping they meet tip to tip in the middle with everything and the kitchen sink flying around in between them. This sounds romantic but in the end it’s mostly tragic. If one of the partners doesn’t arrive somehow…